16 Mar Owning Your Purpose to Operate in Sovereignty and Become Trustworthy

David Deida in The Way of The Superior Man states from the beginning of his book that a man needs to find his purpose if he is going to be trustworthy.

He goes on to explain that ‘If we are willing to discover and embrace our truth, lean through our fears and give everything we’ve got’ we step into the space of possibility, power and potency that most of us long for.

As I read many other men’s work related books I began to realise how frequently this theme is repeated albeit in different language.

Sam Keen in Fire in the Belly states, ‘first I need to know where I am going, then who’s going with me’. In Robert Bly’s Iron John he talks of the protagonist having to steal the key from under his mothers pillow. And James Hollis expresses in Under Saturn’s Shadow how this relates to a man getting back his psychic wholeness, James Hollis in his work speaks frequently about our need to cultivate our personal authority. Which in large part can be a parallel concept with Sovereignty which is represented by The King Archetype which Douglas Gillette and Robert Moore in King, Warrior, Magician, Lover speak of as well as extensively expounded upon by Rod Boothroyd in Finding the King Within and his iteration; Warrior, Magician, Lover, King (updated for for the 21st century).

This theme is of such great importance because it speaks of the healing necessary to own our own reality which predates our parentage, or family of origin. It goes deeper than our culture and transcends even the physical dimension if we are honest.

Our Souls, which the syllable — ‘Psyche’ in Psychology refers to, if She is to live in harmony with our conscious life needs us to connect with Her, to acknowledge and to express Her. The work we do when we begin a psychological journey of healing is the work of cultivating a better relationship to our Souls.

Through the cultivation of a relationship to our souls, through obtaining harmony with our ‘true selves’ we ‘Find Ourselves’ and can then live an integrated existence from this space.

It’s been said the antidote to toxic masculinity is the integrated man. A man who knows who and what he is and what he is here to do and is spending his time, energy and money doing it. This is the theme we’ll be exploring further over the next few weeks; integrating our purpose with our deepened knowledge of self so that as we’ll discuss next how we can go from simply surviving to thriving.