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Have you ever heard someone say, they are ‘trying to find themselves’? It’s a deep statement; I mean if you’re struggling to find yourself, it’s unlikely you’ll get asked to find ‘the needle in the haystack’ when they’re recruiting for that job.
And that’s the rub (on a more serious note) - inherent to realising that something is missing in your life, is recognising that your life is on hold until you can attain some basic self-discovery.
I mean, who wants to date someone who has no self-awareness? who wants to hang out with an ignorant individual? And when you become aware that it’s you that’s lost, it’s natural to put other issues on hold until as an individual you find some ground to put down your roots, a foundation on which to build something you can stand back from and be proud of. A life you can consider worth living.
WHO AM ‘I’?
Who am ‘I’? is a question each of us should approach from two angles; initially from a perspective of self-discovery, taking inventory of our unique personality traits – likes dislikes, passions, motivators, wants, hopes, dreams and aspirations. And other unique characteristics that make up the finger print of our individual soul. And then from the angle of defining yourself; What do you want to be? – What do you want as your legacy? What if you past from the land of the living to the great beyond could you reflect back on with a sense of pride and achievement and say ‘I’ did that?
WHAT ARE MY VALUES?
What on earth are values; I mean your own personal values. We know we have them however identifying them, defining them and owning them can be more complexed than you’d think.
Key to answering the question; what are my values? Is identifying what it is you place value upon. When you stop and think and imagine a world without something and the very notion seams unthinkable, you may well be on the verge of identifying a value. Your values are those things that are intrinsic to your take on life and your idea of what life is all about. You may place value on food, style, relationships, travel, education, art, pets. I don’t know, I am not in a position to identify it for you.
Give yourself the gift of acceptance! Look at yourself in the mirror and say dude/dudette I accept you, unconditionally and unreservedly; don’t wait for anyone else to do it for you or to you, do it too and for yourself, look yourself in the eye when you say it and mean it.
Some people have never had a relationship where this has been given to them from another human being and as a result you could exist without being aware that unconditional unreserved acceptance is something that you are lacking in your life.
Why is it a lack to not have these ingredients in your life? Well we’re all striving for acceptance, approval, love, respect etcetera. Whether it be for economic benefit, for companionship, love, sex or simply so you’re not left out in the cold lonely world on your lonesome, having to maintain your own company and put up a good show all the while being all too aware that it’s just the three of us the original trio – ‘me’, ‘myself’ and ‘I’ going home for coffee tonight.
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