MEET THE

footer-2020

THE IDEA OF

A MAN

logo5

THE IDEA OF

A MAN

imageedit_6_4757234311 imageedit_14_5920393495

Copyrighted ©theideaofaman.com 2020 | site credits Rachaelacademy.com.

How To Go For What You Believe

How To Turn Your Passion Into Reality

HOME

 

ABOUT

 

HE MEANS BUSINESS

 

JOURNAL

 

PODCAST

 

VIDEO

 

CONTACT

 

SHOP

 

JOIN THE TRIBE

 

TERMS & CON

 

LATEST EVENTS

 

 

 

FOOTER4-2020
header-top-2020-no lines

Resources

JOIN THE I AM SITE

Meet Omar

Hire Me

DON'T MISS!

94-945315_play-video-button-video
header-top-2020-no lines2 149678759

CATEGORIES

Each week were going to look at different key elements of a Man’s Journey – Starting in week 1 with asking and answering the question ‘Who am I?’ I’m going to be encouraging you to ask and answer - The question of your own identity.

 

 

 

In week 2 we’ll ask and seek to answer the question; ‘Where do I fit?’ Which career path suits my distinct skill set, my individual gifting? What kind of relationships should I build both intimately and socially? How will I build a life for me that has meaning to me?

 

Week 3 we’ll get into survival.

As you can see by now, in this process of establishing our unique identity and coming to our own conclusions we’ve well and truly upset the status quo and toppled the apple cart,

 

 

FIND US ON FACEBOOK

ADVERTISE HERE

It’s time therefore to address the issue of survival.

 

We don’t live disingenuous, unintegrated lives for no reason. This stuff doesn’t just happen by an accident. There are whole agendas set up in society, organised religion, - family dynamics and social structures to get everyone to toe the line, - get in line and make sure the line isn’t broken. Especially by anyone having the audacity to come to their own conclusions.

So we’ll address;

 

•Navigating the rat race,

 

•finding meaning in our work,

 

•How to achieve a work/life balance?

 

•Navigating hostile elements, - Naysayers, - vampires, - predators and - haters.

 

•We’ll learn how to Invest in ourselves; how to sow the kinds of seeds that will give you the harvest you truly want.

How Do I Survive

Recreation

Business

We’ll be looking at recreation, because all work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

 

And we’ll also explore meaningful recreation, recreation that is an investment into your vocation.

 

As well as the bona fide activity of simply - goofing off.

 

We’ll get down to business and look at some practical ways we can fund this enterprise which is our lives.

 

We’ll tackle important mind-sets that need to be adopted in order to succeed and mind-sets we need to lose if we wish to cease circling the proverbial merry go round Einstein described when defining madness; ‘repeating the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result.

 

We’ll explore changing the paradigms of limited belief systems, - breaking glass ceilings and resolving issues that are holding us back, and preventing us from realising our full potential.

 

ADVERTISE HERE

Introducing the First 12 Weeks

Were going to start our journey by laying a 12-week foundation. Each week were going to look at different key elements of a Man’s Journey –

 

In week 1 asking the question ‘Who am I?’  

In week 2 we’ll ask the question; ‘Where do I fit?’

Week 3 we’ll get into Survival!

In week 4 we’ll be looking at Recreation!

In week 5 we’ll get down to Business!

In week 6 we’ll look at Friendship!

In week 7 we get into the prickly issue of Finance!

In week 8 we’ll explore the area of Life Partnership!

Then we’ll look in week 9 at the Family!

By week 10 we’ll be getting into Practical Spirituality!

In week 11 we enter the area of Mind and Heart!

Then we’ll conclude with week 12; The Body!

 

 

CATEGORIES HOME PAGE

LATEST THIS MONTH

DISCOVER MORE

WEEK 1 - Who Am I?

What Did You Come As?

The Idea of a man project is here to address the crisis we see apparent in the lives of men. I say crisis because a brief glimpse at the statistics paints the picture of a problem which as a society I don’t think we’ve even begun to address.

 

Suicide, not accidents at work, disease, murder, or going to war, but suicide is the biggest cause of death to men under the age of 35.

 

Since the mid 1990’s 3 quarters of the cases of suicide in the UK were committed by men.

 

73% of adults who go missing are male - and 87% of the homeless population are men

 

Men generally struggle through life’s emotional turmoil alone, and as a result we see shocking statistics of male suicide – undiagnosed depression and anxiety and physical symptoms too late to treat.

 

ADVERTISE HERE

PODCAST

Listen in

Once you've done the work of self-discovery, ascertained who you are and what your values are, feeling fully self-actualised you must ask the question now; where do I fit? - What career suits my unique gifts, what kind of interpersonal relationships should I pursue, both socially and intimately? And ultimately how do I build a life for me that has meaning to me?

Where Do I Fit?

We’ll look at friendship and ask what Is a friend – to a man!

 

Is it possible there are differences between male and female friendship, and what men want out of a friend?

 

How do we find individuals we can accept and respect and who reciprocate – people who give a damn – and respects healthy boundaries.

 

We’ll explore differentiating between friends and associates – and how to cultivate both – and how to know the difference.

 

And we’ll get into the concept of circles – to help you identify who should be in your inner circle – and how to eliminate toxic relationships and change your friends.

 

Finance

Friendship

We get into the prickly issue of Finance.

 

We’ll ascertain how to evaluate our finances, and we’ll don gloves to tackle the area of debt!

 

Work gloves to start breaking ceilings that want to limit our financial potential.

 

Then we’ll don boxing gloves as we go to war on drives and impulses that would keep us stuck in cycles of habitual lack and limitation, and rubber gloves as we do surgery to remove the trauma caused by poverty and lack.

 

 

Life Partners

 

We’ll explore the area of life partnership. Marriages, lovers, girl and boy friends.

 

We’ll explore common issues experienced by us all. The need to re-ignite passion, because love is never going to work as a simply intellectual exercise.

 

We’ll get into the imperative area of relational communication and ultimately being that guy. Being the kind of lover you want to be.

 

 

Poor Alice! It was as much as she could do, lying down on one side, to

ADVERTISE HERE

Body

The third component of the trinity that makes up us; The Body!!

There are so many areas’ that need to be addressed here, as integrated biopsychosocial persons, - every area of our lives is effected by the condition of our physical health; how we feel, how we look, and how we feel about how we look.

 

Then there are the various medical histories which are unique to us all. The disabilities, inherent weaknesses, limitations of our DNA. Which can affect us in a variety of different ways.

 

Once again It’s important here to learn not to compare ourselves against any other, but to compare ourselves against our own potential.

The potential we’re discussing measuring ourselves against here is the discovered version of ourselves that fit’s right back where we started with our unique idea of a man.

 

RELATIONSHIPS

In week 4 we’ll be looking at recreation, because all work and no play makes jack a dull boy. And we’ll also explore meaningful recreation, recreation that is an investment into your vocation. As well as the bona fide activity of simply - goofing off.

In week 5 we’ll get down to business and look at some practical ways we can fund this enterprise which is our lives.

We’ll tackle important mind-sets that need to be adopted in order to succeed and mind-sets we need to lose

In week 6 we get into the prickly issue of Finance.

We’ll ascertain how to evaluate our finances, and we’ll don gloves to tackle the area of debt!  Work gloves to start breaking ceilings that want to limit our financial potential.

WHO AM I?

WHERE DO I FIT?

HOW DO I SURVIVE?

RECREATION

BUSINESS

FINANCES

Latest videos

FAMILY

IDENTITY

MONEY/LIFESTYLE

MONEY/LIFESTYLE

MONEY/LIFESTYLE

RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS

SPIRIT, SOUL & BODY

My personal experience can be summed up by the statement; ‘When you think you know the answer; life changes the question!’

 

But let me give you an insight into some practical matters we’ll look at;

 

-Mindfulness; Everyone’s talking about mindfulness. And rightfully so. But how do we actually become conscious of unconscious processes so that we can change from the inside out and achieve lasting growth and development as opposed to just surficial flavour of the month woke talk.

 

-How do we become more self-aware? And how do we mine the hidden treasures of the sub-conscious mind in order to hack habitual behaviours and develop the fully actualised versions of ourselves we’re seeking to become.  

 

-And why should we seek to become; quote on quote ‘actualised’ versions of ourselves, it ties in to the other subject we’ll explore while on the topic of spirituality which is - Finding Meaning; How do we find meaning and purpose in the anxiety inducing state which is our human condition?

 

Separated and ended family settings. Or perhaps you feel you’re happily flying on all cylinders. Even then there are some issues we can explore here if we wish to 10x our family to maximise the lives of all involved.

 

So we’ll ask;

 

- Where, as a man do you fit in the dynamic of your family? Where, as the unique individual you’re discovering yourself to be do you contribute and ultimately obtain fulfilment.

 

- As men for many years were often the engine that makes the whole machine of our families go, however, we frequently find ourselves irrelevant to the daily details of the lives our loved one’s lead.

 

 

- How do we take who we actually are, the authentic self-realised version of ourselves and have the greatest possible impact where it matters most?

 

- How do we sow seeds into the lives we have such a huge impact upon that bear the kind of fruit that will enable those lives to flourish in the real world in which we all have to function? How do we create an environment where we and they can thrive not just survive?  

 

There is quite a solid argument that relationships are what it’s all about, however my moneys firmly on the hokey cokey.

 

front cover 3

FRIENDSHIP

In week 7 we’ll look at friendship and ask what Is a friend – to a man!

 

Is it possible there are differences between male and female friendship, and what men want out of a friend?

 

LIFE PARTNERS

In week 8 we’ll explore the area of life partnership. Marriages, lovers, girl and boy friends. We’ll explore common issues experienced by us all. The need to re-ignite passion, because love is never going to work as a simply intellectual exercise.

 

FAMILY

Then we’ll look in week 9 at the family. Your current situation might not be that great, there are mixed and blended, separated and ended family settings. Or perhaps you feel you’re happily flying on all cylinders.

SPIRITUALITY

By Week 10 we’ll be getting into double digits. So let’s switch gears as were getting into these higher numbers, let’s tackle the lofty matter of a man’s spirituality.

 

Practical Spirituality of course!

MIND & HEART

In Week 11 we enter the area of mind and heart. This is about how to invest in the other apparently ethereal area of our lives our souls.

We are each of us triune entities. Identities made up of three parts. We are Spirits, Souls and Bodies.

 

HEALTH & FITNESS

Then we’ll conclude with week 12, and here you’ve guessed it we get into the third component of the trinity that makes up us; The Body!!

 

 

182825 3752652 1205033 3783444 1093926 3817723 2092450 Resized Family 3783444 Resized 2092450 3752652 1205033 1093926 tumblr_inline_mzwrxj5FVY1snczo9 936119 tumblr_inline_mzwrxj5FVY1snczo9

SPIRITUALITY

MIND & HEART

BODY, SOUL & SPIRIT

BODY, SOUL & SPIRIT

936119 Kids 3817723

Then we’ll look in week 9 at the family. Your current situation might not be that great, there are mixed and blended,

We’ll be getting into double digits. So let’s switch gears as were getting into these higher numbers, let’s tackle the lofty matter of a man’s spirituality. Practical Spirituality of course! The question here quite simply is, - Whatever your take, what’s the take home?

I can assure you I have no agenda to push here!

We enter the area of mind and heart. This is about how to invest in the other apparently ethereal area of our lives our souls.

We are each of us triune entities. Identities made up of three parts. We are Spirits, Souls and Bodies. Having tackled the existential matter of spirituality

we'll move on to discuss feeding and nourishing our souls. Our personality’s essentially. Your soul made up of your mind, your heart and your will, requires feeding and expression as does your body. If your body needs the fuel of food to survive, it’s your soul which demands you pay attention to the taste and flavour of the food you eat. - It’s your soul that cares about superficial matters such as the aesthetic presentation of your food. From the soul of man comes the art of man.

Souls express themselves in the activities in which they participate, but how conscious are we - day by day of the impact those activities are having upon our souls?

This is why we’re going to these lengths to discover our unique identity, as we will in week one ‘Who am I?’ - So that we don’t inadvertently wound and scar our souls by seeking to fit the round peg of our lives into the square hole of someone else’s idea’s. - Living your whole life according to someone else’s idea of ‘an acceptable apology for an existence’.

HE MEANS BUSINESS-IDOAM-1 HE MEANS BUSINESS-IDOAM LAUNCHPAD EMAIL JOI MOBILE LAUNCHPAD EMAIL LOGO